Matt, I experienced a similar event. I had a condo, she had a house, I had a boat.
I told her, we can reach a reasonable settlement or, we can put all the assets in a bucket and divide in half. Conclusion: I kept the boat and my condo, she kept her house and we agreed on a cash settlement.
I am sorry for the loss of your boat. I am glad you sold it quickly. Now, you have a new life to live. Been there, done that. Life goes on and on.
The 'whys', we dont need or want to know. God put the eyes on the front of our head so we can see where we are going without dwelling on the "where we have been". Stay strong.