Yes, Fish53. I agree. My idea of "heavy weather" now, in this GB, is much less than what I would have considered when sailing. It is boat specific and boat subjective. And large seas offshore are way different than near shore.
I recognize now I have already been out on days we should have just stayed in port because the boat did not handle like I am used to.
A flush-deck deep keel displacement monohull sailboat under reefed canvas behaves quite differently than this semi-displacement wide, flat aft, shallow beast with a 1.5 story apartment on top and no lead keel and no sails to stabilize her! I get that and I am more careful now.
Whereas before 25kts with some chop or seas would just be a good day of sailing, now we must think twice, especially if forecasted to build.
Have already been out in sitations where my wife did not feel comfortable leaving the flybridge because it was so rough, whereas I was walking all around, going down below to make lunch for us and bringing it up top for her, etc. Have always had good sea legs and never minded getting trashed because that is my background; but I was wrong to not recognize we should not have left port that day - it is no longer business as usual.
My wife is my barometer now too. And she is right. Why go out today?
I have the same background as Hippo - started at a young age crewing for experienced older folks who knew what to do, who never yelled and who never got freaked out about anything. I followed their lead and over the decades, and with my own boat, grew to feel comfortable generally in whatever. But all my experience has been on 40, 50 and 60-foot ocean suitable sailing vessels, not semi-displacement twin-screw powerboats.
The strategies mentioned about separate trottling to square to following seas and "tacking" to handle seas all make sense to me and I can visualize all that and appreciate all the advice and input which I will store away but hopefully rarely have to use if I am smart and stay in port on crappy days.
I also recognize the risks of the GB having big vulnerable windows! Would personally never go offshore in any sailboat not fitted with deadlights or some means to secure those. So we will not be going "offshore" in our GB.
But at some point we may find ourselves in a situation where I will be glad I asked you guys all these stupid questions!
Have also realized from your input that autopilots have come a long way and I need to open my mind and learn more about those over time.
This input is why this Forum is a valuable resource. I can recognize from who posts what that there are some very experienced and very knowledgeable folks here and I always enjoy learning folks who have been there and done that.
Thank you all.