This is a family decision; if you want to be happy on your boat, your mate must be happy on your boat. She needs to have an equal say...some wise men would say that she should have a 51% vote.
There's really no way to know until you go aboard such boats and spend a bit of time on them. You'll have to go to boat shows. Hunt for in-the-water boat shows and travel to see them. Yes, difficult with Covid, unfortunately. The thing is, pictures can only convey so much They don't show how you two would actually interact, both while underway and while at anchor. They don't show how difficult it is to share the galley space, how the galley and dinette area relate to one another, how your guests (if that's part of the plan) interact with the galley and its occupant.
More important to me (this is just me, mind you) is whether there is a rear cockpit, which is where my admiral picks up mooring buoys and steps off onto the dock.
Our boat is 37 feet with a small but adequate rear cockpit. It's our favorite space on the boat and SabreWife would never be comfortable without it, both for relaxation and entertainment as well as for boarding the boat, handling lines, etc.
Our family has had galley up and galley down, power and sail. I wouldn't make the galley location my primary concern as (a) it's really not where you spend much time, and (b) unless you're looking at a larger boat, this criterion will really limit what you're looking at.
As requested, a photo. It's all a compromise; a decent cockpit and a comfortable aft cabin make the pilothouse smaller. But how much space do we need? We don't entertain away from the dock all that often. In a seaway, we don't want to be lurching all over the place...you want to go from handhold to handhold. Note that our beam is only 10.5 feet. As always, bear in mind that this is personal preference; your mileage may vary.