kokopelliTim
Senior Member
This might begin a new brouhaha....but I do have some serious questions.
I have lived aboard for several years, and cruised some by myself or with friends.
Now I find I am getting into a serious relationship. In a house, living on land situation she and I would probably do well. (we have both been married a few times; so we have an idea what we are getting into.)
I am retired and once land responsibilities end (taking care of an elderly mom) , I am planning on cruising, at the very least living aboard and never returning to live on land.
She says she is ok with this and wants to do this too.
But she has the romance of boating, cruising, all the good stuff in her head. I try to explain the bad, ugly, awful times when you think that if someone gave me some money right now....I would give them this boat.
But she does not seem to be able to understand.
SO, how to really get her to "know". I would like the relationship to work, BUT I will not give up my dream (again) for her.
And I really want her to want this and understand.
I currently have no boat, so we cannot go for a short cruise to experience some things.
Chartering is out....that would reinforce the romantic ideas and not the real ideas.
I do not want to lead her on to a bad experience. I really want to be fair.
So. What could we do? What could I say?
There is a LOT of experience on this forum and I have learned to listen and choose some good ideas.
Thanks.
I have lived aboard for several years, and cruised some by myself or with friends.
Now I find I am getting into a serious relationship. In a house, living on land situation she and I would probably do well. (we have both been married a few times; so we have an idea what we are getting into.)
I am retired and once land responsibilities end (taking care of an elderly mom) , I am planning on cruising, at the very least living aboard and never returning to live on land.
She says she is ok with this and wants to do this too.
But she has the romance of boating, cruising, all the good stuff in her head. I try to explain the bad, ugly, awful times when you think that if someone gave me some money right now....I would give them this boat.
But she does not seem to be able to understand.
SO, how to really get her to "know". I would like the relationship to work, BUT I will not give up my dream (again) for her.
And I really want her to want this and understand.
I currently have no boat, so we cannot go for a short cruise to experience some things.
Chartering is out....that would reinforce the romantic ideas and not the real ideas.
I do not want to lead her on to a bad experience. I really want to be fair.
So. What could we do? What could I say?
There is a LOT of experience on this forum and I have learned to listen and choose some good ideas.
Thanks.